The last week has brought, in stark relief, what this word means to me. I have never been one for large social groups..., it's not that I don't fit in, I do..., but not in any normal way. A man like me, is far more comfortable, in small tight groups..., or even with just one other, even alone..., is that sad? Hmmm..., perhaps I should explain that...
In my life, I have never really, been able to settle..., or even yet to be settled, into any particular circle. In fact, to be fair, I have always considered myself to be a "Circle Jumper". Sounds like a kinda cool title huh? Well not really, what this means is that I have always been part of, but apart from, any circle that I come into contact with. It has left me lonely, in that although I am known by several hundreds of people, I am in fact not fully known by many.
Having said that I do have some very special people in my life..., two in fact. Both of which I would die for, and they likewise. If I am feeling down I can pick up the phone and know they will be there for me...., and always I feel better for doing so. Also at the same time when I am happy, they are there to share it...., they never argue, they never gripe, they are just there, and I am there for them in the same way. I can't tell you the amount of times I have sat and listened, as they both have spilled all their troubles out to me.
So..., getting back to the point, "What is friendship"? Well..., to me it is simple..., unconditional love.
"Unconditional"..., good word that, let me go a little deeper...
So my two best friends..., if I ever found myself destitute, no money, nowhere to live, on the bones of my arse..., I know for a fact, the first thing out of their mouths would be..., "What do you need?" This to me is the whole unconditional thing. They would never ask for anything in return..., they love and care for me, and I them. That is true friendship.
In life, we will have many relationships, some good, some bad, and some indifferent..., but in the end..., and what we are all striving for I think..., is six people that will will not shrink away from the burden..., if you know what I mean?
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Friends are most definitely lifeblood. Without them, I'd almost die, and I've gotten pretty close to dying, emotionally and mentally. I think that's when I really got the courage to come out was the chance to meet ACTUAL friends that will be there no matter what, gay or not and even more.
It's actually the times without friends that I feel most alone and lonely. (that's a really stupid sentence, lol, I just read it...no shit, duh!, lol)
I know very well what you mean there. The meaning of 'friendship' is definitely by many taken too easy. It takes some time to work out who's your true friends... in the long run... unconditionally. But it DO show, oh yes!
To me true friends is not to be counted in numbers, it's just to appreciate them and show them the mutual love care and respect they deserve. It doesn't mean anything if you have one or ninety-nine!
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I think we often over use the word friend. Often what we mean, is acquaintance, and we all have thousands of those. But friends? True deep know each other at the bottom of your bones friends? We are all lucky if we get a few of those our whole lives.
You are a lucky guy!
I do know whst you mean and I agree with you. True friends are very hard to find, love and trust.
Friendships like that need time to be created, but worth all the trouble
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It is cool that you have friends like that.
I added you blog to my list to, dude. :)
boy, do I ever know what you mean.
According to Facebook I have several hundred friends. I don't know if I really have any true friends. I guess I need to think about that.
It's very important to have those type of true friends (as opposed to Facebook friends, like others said, for lack of a better term). Someone who you can fall back on in times of need, should that ever occur.
I think you're very lucky to have those 2 friends.
And I know exactly what you mean about "circle jumping" - great word. I was the same way most of my life, especially in later years but for me it was more like... hovering around (which doesn't sound nearly as catchy) but sort of floating around with no real connections, almost like I didn't really exist. I could go all existential here LOL.
Anyway, cheers.
Friend is such an abused word don't you think? We refer to Facebook Friends, Friends down the pub, Friends at work when most of the time they are, at best Pals or possibly Chums. More than once I've had to fall back on friends for support for a variety of reasons and not one of the real ones has ever let me down. Pals have a habit of disappearing just when they're needed.
Over the last six months I've discovered that some of my most important friends are people I'll probably never meet in the flesh, they're right here in blog land commenting on my posts and giving very real support when I need it most.
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Mac
i totally agree with you. i know my friends my true friends i can count on one hand they would be there no matter what. the other really are people i know. good post!
Octavius!
Be grateful for just the two! I've gone through periods of my life where I was completely friendless.
In my opinion, it's much better to have a couple really close, great friends than hundreds of sort-of good ones.
-Dean
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