So..., I was listening to an interview by a fellow blogger, Mickey from HockeyKidMN, formerly "A gay hockey kids life". The interview is on a pod cast, and can be found HERE. It is about 40 mins in, but I didn't know that, and ended up listening to the whole thing..., was pretty good actually, and I highly recommend you go have a listen. Mickey is a good kid, but like a lot of "Closeted" young men, is finding life pretty hard and unfair. His blog is also worth a look..., I warn you now though, if you aren't into hockey, you soon will be!!
Anyways, the start of the podcast had the two guys talking about the Kinsey Scale, For ease of operation I will put the actual scale here...
Now, I would consider myself to be a "6" in that I have no fantasies about women..., and I definitely have no desire to do anything sexual with one. Yet, in the past I have done. Don't get me wrong, I am sure there are plenty of people out there that just knew from the off, that they were inclined to the same gender, but for me it was a definite process. I guess when I was a teenager, you could say I was a bit of a window shopper. I mean..., you have to try before you buy ..., right?
So getting back to the "6" part. I haven't had sex, or even thought about sex, with a chick in well over a decade. I am solely Gay..., the complete rainbow, if you will. To me, that makes me a "6"..., or am I wrong? Don't think that I am all about labels, because I truly am not, I just don't like people telling me what I can and can't be..., you know why? Coz Fuck them..., that's why!
So here it is..., I would like your opinion on all this. And if you feel comfortable enough to voice it, where you think you fit in the scale as well.
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Haven't heard much about Tyler from "I'll do tricks for you" lately..., but last report had him awake and talking..., and like a true teenager..., complaining. I think that was the best bit I heard...., he can't be all bad if he can bitch! Get well soon dude..., still thinking of you every day.
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I’m going to agree with you there dude. I would also not accept any other label (and I don’t do labels) other than a 6. true to what you said, I did some window shopping while growing up, all confused as many of us are, but that does not mean I would go down to that window again. no sirree. I’ve made my purchase now thank you very much and don’t see the need for a refund.
I think this -- you know who you are before anyone else does. That being said, no matter what the scale says, you are a 6 if you are a 6. By their own logic, they could never be trusted if they lied and they are kleptomaniacs if they stole a pencil in third grade.
I find it so frustrating that we do this, but it's just easier to label things rather than see them as they are and accept them as they change.
Fuck the labels. You're not a 6, you're Octavius. If you jumped from 6 to 12, you'll still be Octavius....
I'm annoyed now ><
It works the other way around - say to a straight guy that he cant be a zero and he may be equally confused.
what if your rating is like a pendulum swinging back and forth all the time? ugh
The problem with labels and scales is that they only work in the here and now. When I was fighting my homosexuality at 14 I had a girlfriend and we did stuff together which I enjoyed but still considered myself gay. Then in the 70s a girl dedided to test my convictions and I let her, once again I enjoyed it at the time but still considered myself gay.
At no time have I ever actively pursued any girl, finding myself only attracted to boys and after the second relationship foundered I have been exclusively gay. I have no interest or attraction towards women.
The scale would want to label me 4 whereas I am quite happy that I'm 6.
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Mac
I think that you could definitely be a six even if you've had sex with someone of the opposite sex. Homosexuality is about attraction rather than past experiences, isn't it? But in reality, it's not that big a deal anyway. I think sexuality is too fluid for labels.
I've always considered Kinsey scales totally fictitious. Rubbish. In fact, the more I find out about the Kinsey institute the more upset and disturbed I get.
A piece of advice from me, don't bother your head too much about this. Stay you, the way you are happy with.
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Daniel
Well I agree to the most part here with you, but lets remember that labels are inherently neither good nor bad things.
The scale was set up by Dr. Kinsey at a time when we knew nothing about human sexuality, to say nothing of homosexuality. The whole world was in a closet about sex then, and Dr. Kinsey tore the doors off the hinges just in time to usher in the sexual revolution. (Kinsey is a great film, by the way.)
Kinsey needed some kind of a tool to determine exactly how common or rare statistically same sex attraction was. The scale was a simple and easy tool to get those base line numbers, but was never meant to be used as a part of more elaborate studies, or for people to use as a permanent label.
I think maybe what strikes me most about the scale is that maybe our place on it is movable somewhat. I don't think a 6 can float over to be a 1, but maybe over time that 6 can come closer to a 5.
Very interesting discussion I must say, and the only label I dare slap on you is that you're an amazing guy. And that one sticks!
Take care... I hope to catch you on chat soon!
All these numbers are confusing me! LOL
As others have already stated, what a "6" is to one person might mean something completely different to another.
I'm just glad you're Octavius. Isn't that good enough?
-Dean (~_^)
just stoppin in while i had a sec say thanks and ill try to do better on posting about tyler.
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